Giving yourself a life review is a good idea for a number of reasons. Do you feel like you are stuck? Emotional? Or just plain confused about everything at the moment?
Sitting down to review your life and everything in it can help bring some clarity and also help you understand what needs to change and what isn’t actually that bad.
There are a few steps you can take, but the main one is simply just thinking.
Sit down somewhere with a cup of tea or coffee or whatever you want, and think about everything in your life right now.
This includes your family, friends, work, hobbies, morals, beliefs… As hard as it may be, this might become quite an emotional roller coaster.
Try not to let the details get to you. Write them down and keep going!
Life Review Part One
The first step to giving yourself a life review is to do all of the thinking first. Don’t over exhaust yourself by trying to think about absolutely everything in your whole entire life. You could try to focus on one topic at a time; Work, Family, Relationships for example.
The following points will help guide you as to what to do with step one. Simply, get some paper and write down some notes for each of these topics or others if you can think of them.
Whilst you are doing these steps, please remember; You are fine and all good. You are not an awful person, there is nothing ‘wrong’ with you. Everyone has room to bloom, everyone has space to grow. No one is perfect.
Write things down that bothers you…
This seems very broad but sometimes I personally can feel myself getting stressed at things I know I don’t need too. So figure these things out.
It could be as simple as a job that you havent done yet!
Who/what brings joy into your life…
Obviously, this process isn’t all about the negatives. Think about the good too! There is tons of good in our lives when we really think about it, even when we think there is nothing left. Write down who and what brings you joy and why they do.
Do you have relationships that are one-sided/hard work
Analysing your friendships is a good way to sort out who is in your circle, and how to increase your good vibrations. I have a post all about it here – Increase your good vibes!
Has anything happened in the family that has upset you
This is kind of a big one. Just because you are related to someone does not mean how they treat you or others is excused.
If there is a problem, think about if you need to address it and what the outcome would be. if that outcome would be negative, simply distance yourself.
You will feel a lot better.
How do you feel about your job,
The jobs we do and the careers we choose need to be something we love. I know that there are a lot of people that will work jobs just for the high wage…
If you are truly not happy and not enjoying your life, then what is the point?
Do you think you could be somewhere better and more appreciated?
You don’t need to map out your whole life now… You may well love your job!
When you view yourself, what do you see?
Self-confidence is key. I must admit, I struggle with this myself sometimes. Not only does this mean what do you see with your physical appearance, but what do you see when you imagine how you carry yourself, the way you act, the way you talk.
Sometimes there are things we need to change in order to either be respected more as a person or to be more respectful as a person.
Not everyone is perfect and we all have room to learn more about ourselves and how we are in the world!
Do negative emotions come from other sources?
This again is super broad, but for you yourself you may receive unwelcome emotions from other places, whatever that may be.
This could be to do with where you live, what you want to achieve, or even how you care for yourself.
How can you change your own mindset to be a better person?
Is there anything you think you can learn to improve yourself as a person? For example, during the BLM movement. Do you know enough? Is there more you can do and improve?
Not only with this, but with all matters.
Do you let people into your own life enough?
How trusting are you of others?
The list is endless and when you are writing these things down, all sorts will pop into your mind and you will know what you need to improve.
Like I said before, it’s not that you are NOT a good person, just everyone has things they can do to be better.
Part Two Life Review
The first part is the hard part. If you don’t want to do the next step yet or it’s feeling a bit too heavy, take a break or save this post and come back to it tomorrow!
During step to you basically want to narrow it down and create the steps for change, and also see the things that are good and to appreciate what you have got.
- Take a few moments to look over what you have written down, or think about the things you have thought about.
Is there anything you have missed or something that doesn’t really count?
Create the top things into a list form of things you like and things you don’t. PLEASE remember to include positive things too!
There will be positivity somewhere, sometimes it’s hard to find. Hopefully doing this exercise you will see that!
- For now, choose 5 things you think needs changing, and five things you think is working for you.
Create a list of things that you are happy about and a list of things you want to change. For example, your list of things could be; (these are just examples, not my list haha!)
- Find a new job that I love and enjoy!
- Speak to my friends about what is bothering me.
- Address my personal reviews – I need to stress less about things that are minor.
- Educate myself more on the world and how I can make a difference.
- Be a tidier person and take more pride in my belongings.
Get creative and make some reminders for yourself. You can create reminders on your phone to do something or think a certain way, even if it just says “take a moment to breathe”.
- Having visual reminders for yourself can help manifest change in your life.
- Remember to be calm, nothing changes overnight.
- A positive and healthy mindset will help you to focus on what you want and how to change.
- Life is weird, and it works in very strange ways.
- There are no flowers without a little bit of rain…
You don’t need to do this often, give yourself a life review if you can really feel yourself sinking.
Or, just do this once or twice a year just to make sure youre on track with what you want from life.
This is not a negative process. You should have things you want to change – these are the things that bring no bonus or joy to your life, and you should also have things you love – you may want to enhance these, or keep them on track.
Thank you for reading, I would love to know what you think and if you also give yourself a life review now and then!
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